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Day One of Ferberizing our child


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Quick summary: Noah had been sleeping from 11pm to 4-5am for the past month, with the exception of two days before Day One when he began skipping the 4-5am feeding. That’s how we realized he was ready to pull an all-nighter.

The problem is not the night sleep. He falls asleep during feeding and doesn’t wake up when we put him in his crib. He can’t fall asleep on his own during naptime. He cries desperately before each nap because he is too tired to fall asleep on his own. I know, some people say we should leave it at that, if he sleeps so well at night, then why force it? As I wrote in my previous post, I’m positive that learning to self-soothe is a skill that will help him in the long run. Better sooner than later we say.

If for the past two days Noah woke up at 8:00 am, on the first day of his ferberization he decided to wake up again at 5:40am. At first, in a zombie-like manner, I did as I had been doing for the past months: I went into his room, took him out of his crib and rocked him to sleep. When I realized my lethargic self had betrayed me, I put him down in his crib drowsy but awake. When I left the room, at 6:15am, he began to cry. We each went in at 5min, 7min and 10min intervals until we felt that maybe it was because he was hungry. He had been asking to eat at 8am, but maybe, we thought, that day he was hungry before. So at 7:00am we gave in. Forty-five minutes of suffering is enough.

That’s the thing about sleep training methods: we are so confused and so affected by our baby’s cry that we doubt everything. Are we doing it the right way? Are we a failure for feeding him? Is it hunger? Is he super tired? Does he hate us for doing this?

Have you felt this while sleep training your child?

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